Our daughter Ella was born in May, 2019. She weighed 7lb 15oz. I had plenty of colostrum; I was able to get quite a bit out each time I expressed but her blood sugars were continuously low; her lowest was critically low at 18. My baby was given liquid glucose and I was told to continue breastfeeding. Things were okay, and then I started noticing her skin yellowing.
She stopped nursing as much and became very lethargic.
She was discharged home on a bili blanket. I believe her bilirubin was 18.2 at discharge. I was to just breastfeed and not supplement her. That first night home she slept all night; I couldn’t even wake her to nurse. The following day we went to have her jaundice lab work. Her doctor called and said that we needed to go to the ER immediately due to her dangerously high bili level—22.
There I was, nursing my daughter under the blue lights, watching them poke her over and over again to get an IV started. I remember having to leave the room because I just couldn’t listen to her scream anymore. It broke my heart, and I just couldn’t do it.
After about 30 minutes, a machine to find her veins, and a peds consult, they finally got the IV in. They did another bili test after being under more intensive lights. It was still rising—it was now at 25. They shipped her off to St. Mary’s hospital in MN, and she stayed in the PICU for four days. She went into a little incubator on a stretcher, and I remember crying into the arms of one of the ambulance workers. She was three days old, and she stayed all alone because I have another child at home I had to take care of. While in the PICU, she received formula and my pumped breastmilk and her jaundice began to clear.
The first days home went smoothly. We were supplementing with formula as instructed. But then I saw a couple of LCs who told me to stop using formula, so I did. One of the LCs did a weighted feed and said and she took in 2 ounces. (she was 3 weeks old) I was told that was good but, I didn’t know it was not enough! I believed all the lies about the amount of breastmilk babies need.
Starving your child because of believing the breastfeeding woo isn’t fair to you or the child. I suffered from PPD and would get so angry at her for crying. “I just fed you! What more do you want?!”
Three weeks or so went by, and she didn’t gain a single ounce in two weeks. The county got involved and started coming to our house for weight checks. At four months of age, she didn’t even weigh 10lb, and she was born almost 8lb.
Looking back, I feel awful. I wish I had a mother’s intuition during this time. They say that PPD can block out a mother’s instincts. It’s true. Only when my PPD was getting better did I realize the truth. I started supplementing with formula. She’s now almost five months and weighs 13lb.
If only I knew that she was starving.
So thank you, for advocating for me and my child.
Everyone else failed us.
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