My Breastfed Baby Starved While Under The Care Of Health Professionals For 5 Weeks

My beautiful baby girl Mary-Kate was delivered by emergency c-section, and although there were complications during labor, she was healthy on arrival. Having done a bit of research and listened to the advice of professionals, as well as the threat of the global pandemic posing a risk, I decided I would breastfeed my daughter, to provide her with passive antibodies for COVID-19 from my milk.

I began exclusively breastfeeding in the hospital and the midwife said Mary-Kate had the perfect latch. I loved being a mummy, I could not stop looking at this beautiful little human me and my partner had created, but Mary-Kate was becoming increasingly unsettled. She was almost always attached to my breast and would fall asleep soon after latching on. I spoke to the health visitors, and we were told her crying was colic.  We began giving Mary-Kate lots of colic-type remedies. 

Each time somebody came to weigh her whether it be the GP, HV, or Midwife, Mary-Kate was not gaining and was in fact losing weight. I could not understand, because she was ALWAYS feeding. Nobody seemed alarmed by this. I was told to just keep trying, she might be a ‘slow starter’. Never once did they check to see what my milk supply was or how much she was getting. The professionals would leave, and I would carry on as normal. Baby attached to the breast, me trying to maintain some sort of order in the home, taking care of my personal needs and sleep. Mary-Kate would just cry and cry and cry unless asleep at my breast.  I was exhausted, I was falling asleep whilst holding my baby and I knew this presented its own risks. 

 ‘If I don’t stop breastfeeding, I will make her ill, I’m failing her’ are the types of thoughts that were consuming me. 

Her growth chart indicates an immediate intervention  is necessary at week one. Instead, she was given colic remedies to ‘stop’ her crying. Her cries were from hunger and thirst. Birth – Just below 25th Centile Lowest – Just above 0.4th Centile


My health visitor came to visit around week 4 and was starting to become a bit concerned regarding the lack of weight gain so she decided to get a lactation specialist involved. I was not told to supplement even though she knew my baby was not gaining weight while I waited for another week to see the lactation consultant.  On week 5, the lactation nurse came, went over the latch, and taught me how to squeeze my breast when nursing. She then told me to use a tube to put against my nipple and then into Mary-Kates’s mouth. She told me to keep Mary-Kate on the breast for one more week and we would assess the situation when we weighed her again. This was the final straw for me. I knew something was not right and I should not be having to put my baby through all of this to be fed so I began thinking about turning to bottle feeding.  

We were in the middle of tier 3 lockdown in my area, so I was not allowed any visitors, except for my Mum. She would come and visit as often as she possibly could, just to offer support. After the lactation consultant left, an hour later my mum turned up, saw my daughter, and looked very alarmed. She said, “Emma, she is doing poorly, her bones are protruding.” She went on to say, “I think you need to feed her formula right away.”  I then told my mum I had made the decision earlier that day to feed her formula. From that moment on, we bottle-fed my baby because she was so weak. 

It was only when my baby was 3 months old did I really appreciate the severity of her weight loss. It’s difficult to look back at pictures of her first 6 weeks because she looks so poorly, so fragile, so weak! I carried so much guilt for so long. How did I not notice? I look back now, and I feel that there is intense, unrelenting pressure around infant feeding. Breast is best, is plastered all over any sort of baby feeding advertisements. It’s even written on a formula. It’s EVERYWHERE!

 I was very angry and I wrote a complaint and sought legal advice.

When Mary-Kate was 5 months old, I was forwarded an article about a very similar situation to mine, and the baby was not as lucky as Mary-Kate and passed away. This is more common than I ever realized. There is no shame in changing a feeding ‘plan’. There is no such thing as the ‘perfect mum’. Just do you! 

Mary-Kate still has a bit of catching up to do. She is almost 8 months old and has just started in 3–6-month-old clothing, but she is healthy and hitting all her milestones. I will never be able to thank my mum enough for being strong enough to tell me, I needed to feed her formula right away, but I am also proud of myself for following her advice. 

Having been through this horrific experience, what have I learned?  FED IS BEST.

Whether it’s formula or breastfeeding, if you and your baby are thriving, that is all that matters. 


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